I found it quite appropriate that I would sit down and write this post today, August 18th, the four year anniversary of Nate Avery's passing. This post is about time, and if there is anything I have learned, from Nate, from Brian, from Greg, and from Murphy, it is that time is our most limited resource, a thing that we are not guaranteed, a thing that no amount of money can buy.
If you have ever been to Flagstaff, or are friends with anyone from Flagstaff, then chances are you have seen one or a hundred "BLE" stickers. BLE--Best Life Ever--is the gentle reminder Nate left with us. A reminder to live your Best Life Ever, to live life to the fullest, to live with no regret, to be kind and compassionate, to help others, to waste no time, and to be happy. BLE is more than a bumper sticker here; it is a way of life.
If ever there were another person who embodied "BLE" as well as Nate did, it was Brian Boyer, another soul we lost far too soon. Dave Stilley, a near and dear friend, couldn't have said it any better, "Nate reminded us to live our Best Life Ever, and Brian taught us all how to do it--Be Like Boz." Well what does that mean? How does one "BLB"? Simple: Do what makes you happy, waste no time, regret nothing, help others, love infinitely. See the pattern here?
The last couple of months have been quite the pill to swallow with the loss of so many people. But we carry on, because we know that's what Nate and Brian would want. They want us to keep living the way they would--extraordinarily.
Time is not infinite. Time is finite. And what is scarier than that is that no one knows just how finite it is. There is no excuse not to live now and to do what makes you happy--there may not be time later. There is no need for unnecessary stress, that makes you unhappy. Work hard, play harder. Smile, A LOT. Laugh constantly. Defy the odds. Be a damn good person. Love infinitely.
Every time I see the BLE acronym, or stare down at the top cap on my steerer tube and see the words, "Do it for Boz," I'm immediately brought to another space. A space where not much other than smiling, laughing, and having a shit-kickin' good time matter. I've been doing a lot of that lately--and I'm forever grateful of every smile that's been painted on my face, every laugh that has come out of my mouth, and every ridiculous story I've been able to tell.
Today my heart is with the Avery family; Nate was an incredible human being, and I'm so glad he left you all here with us to make the world a better place. My heart is also with the Roberts family, a family I hardly know, but whose son made me laugh every time he opened his mouth.
Writing is something I have always been passionate about. I love sharing my stories, my thoughts, my advice, but mostly, I write to record memories and express myself. So here are a few of my fondest memories, best and worst moments, my most profound and boisterous thoughts, and riskiest advice. Enjoy!